The Choose Me Wound
This is the root of what I call the Choose Me Wound—the internalized belief that worth is conditional, that value is granted through selection, approval, or attachment, rather than something intrinsic and inherently ours. It isn’t a personality flaw or a lack of self-esteem. It’s a survival strategy shaped in relationship, culture, and history. A way of leaning toward what promised light, even when it slowly pulls us away from our own ground.
The Spark Myth And What Else to Look For When Dating…
The spark can be a beautiful starting point, a signal that something has our attention and is worth exploring. But while chemistry can open the door, it doesn’t tell the whole story. Spark without substance isn’t wrong, it’s just incomplete.
Boundaries - Part Two - Creating Secure Connection Through Self-Allyship
In part one of this mini-series on boundaries, we explored what boundaries are, what they are not, and how to take them. In theory, this can look like a clear roadmap, but in reality, it can leave many feeling more lost. When we turn inward to identify our boundaries, we can find that our edges are unknown even to ourselves. We sometimes find our limits only when we have been pushed to the very edge, and they come roaring at us, finally having had enough. If this is you, you are not broken or alone.
Boundaries, Part One - Building The Bridge to Connection
I often invite clients to imagine their boundaries as bridges to authenticity and connection. Boundaries help us locate the edges of where we end and others begin. They keep us grounded in our values, needs, limits, desires, and emotional experience while allowing others to stay grounded in theirs.
Your Body Is Not a Problem to Solve
This is where depth psychology meets the nervous system. The psyche speaks in images and symbols; the body speaks in sensations and impulses. Together, they form a conversation. Our task is to listen—to thank the protectors for their service, to remind the body that not every moment is a battlefield, and to allow the wisdom beneath the symptom to be revealed.
How to Help with Invisible Labour When You Can’t See it
Understand the impact of invisible labour and shift the dynamic for the benefit of everyone!
How Invisible Labour Squashes Women’s Sexuality
Do you really need one more thing to do?