The Five Winning Strategies in a Relationship
Keep having the same fight over and over? Learn how to break that cycle! Terry Real's five winning strategies offer a different way forward.
The Five Losing Strategies in Relationships
You've had this argument before. Maybe it started with the dishes, or a late reply, or a tone of voice. Within minutes, it has stopped being about any of those things. One of you is defending, the other is pulling away, and you both walk off feeling more alone than when you started.
So what separates the couples who can move through moments like this from the ones who keep replaying them?
To Learn that your Boundaries Matter
It is valid, and even helpful, to check-in with your boundaries and allow them to shift as you change and grow.
Seek To Understand, Then To Be Understood
One of the most common themes that arises in the therapy room - and in nearly every kind of relationship we experience from intimate partnerships, parenting, friendships, workplaces, or community - is the longing to feel understood.
When You Fight, What Are You Fighting For?
Couples often arrive in the therapy room with a familiar kind of exhaustion. Not because they argue, but because they argue the same way, again and again.
The storyline shifts. One week it’s money, the next it’s parenting, then intimacy, then time, then tone. But beneath the changing content, there is a recognition: we’ve been here before.
There’s a particular kind of discouragement that comes with that. It can begin to feel less like a disagreement and more like a pattern you’re trapped inside.
Getting Your Spark Back
Something feels hollow right now.
Not just individually, but collectively. The world itself feels thinner, louder, and more disconnected. The external environment has a way of shaping the internal landscape, and right now, many of us are carrying a kind of loss that is difficult to name.
The Courage to Own Our Power
The more we avoid taking responsibility for our freedom, the more we abandon ourselves. And the more we abandon ourselves, the more we give away our power.
Creating the Villages We Long For- Andriana’s Travel Blog
If We Want A Village, We Have To Be Villagers
Villages don’t emerge from good intentions alone. They are built - slowly, imperfectly - through repeated relational choices. Becoming a villager is less about grand gestures and more about how we show up in the ordinary moments of our lives.
The Spark Myth And What Else to Look For When Dating…
The spark can be a beautiful starting point, a signal that something has our attention and is worth exploring. But while chemistry can open the door, it doesn’t tell the whole story. Spark without substance isn’t wrong, it’s just incomplete.
Your Body Is Not a Problem for You to Solve
This is where depth psychology meets the nervous system. The psyche speaks in images and symbols; the body speaks in sensations and impulses. Together, they form a conversation. Our task is to listen—to thank the protectors for their service, to remind the body that not every moment is a battlefield, and to allow the wisdom beneath the symptom to be revealed.
How to Help with Invisible Labour When You Can’t See it
Understand the impact of invisible labour and shift the dynamic for the benefit of everyone!
How Invisible Labour Squashes Women’s Sexuality
Do you really need one more thing to do?