When You Fight, What Are You Fighting For?
Couples often arrive in the therapy room with a familiar kind of exhaustion. Not because they argue, but because they argue the same way, again and again.
The storyline shifts. One week it’s money, the next it’s parenting, then intimacy, then time, then tone. But beneath the changing content, there is a recognition: we’ve been here before.
There’s a particular kind of discouragement that comes with that. It can begin to feel less like a disagreement and more like a pattern you’re trapped inside.
Creating the Villages We Long For- Andriana’s Travel Blog
If We Want A Village, We Have To Be Villagers
Villages don’t emerge from good intentions alone. They are built - slowly, imperfectly - through repeated relational choices. Becoming a villager is less about grand gestures and more about how we show up in the ordinary moments of our lives.
Boundaries - Create Secure Connection Through Self-Allyship
In part one of this mini-series on boundaries, we explored what boundaries are, what they are not, and how to take them. In theory, this can look like a clear roadmap, but in reality, it can leave many feeling more lost. When we turn inward to identify our boundaries, we can find that our edges are unknown even to ourselves. We sometimes find our limits only when we have been pushed to the very edge, and they come roaring at us, finally having had enough. If this is you, you are not broken or alone.
Boundaries, Part One - Building The Bridge to Connection
I often invite clients to imagine their boundaries as bridges to authenticity and connection. Boundaries help us locate the edges of where we end and others begin. They keep us grounded in our values, needs, limits, desires, and emotional experience while allowing others to stay grounded in theirs.